Helpful Tips to Encourage the Use of Good Manners
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We all recognize that the world we live in today is mega fast-paced. We get nearly immediate gratification for
many of our needs and wants - thanks to drive-through service, the internet, and cell phones to name a few. The
unfortunate result is a society that is often self-centered, in-your-face rude, and even angry. Consideration for
others and social decorum is seldom the first response for many people.
However… hope remains for a more civil, courteous society. Since “actions speak louder than words”, parents
have real power through modeling behavior to teach kindness, responsibility, composure, and compassion.
Here are a few ideas that will encourage children to practice good manners and proper social behavior:
- Be a good example. Children emulate adult behavior.
- Plan at least one sit down meal a week with the family. Remind children about
table manners as issues arise. This is
also the perfect time for engaging in
cheerful family discussion, which
promotes the skill of pleasant
conversation with others. Children can
also help set the table, and clean up.
- Speak well of others. The old rule of “If
you don’t have something nice to say,
don’t say anything at all”, is still a good
one to enforce. Talk to your children
about how they would feel if someone
was speaking badly about them.
- Winning and losing with grace can be
tough. Strong emotions often follow
victories and defeats. Children can learn
that games and competitions are just one
part of life. Their importance as a person
does not hinge on wins or loses. Have
children thank their opponent after a
game, and remind them that there
wouldn’t be a game without the opponent.
- Children need to know that as an
important part of the family, their
contribution is of value. Chores can be
made more enjoyable by putting on music
while working, or setting up simple
rewards such as a picnic lunch in the yard
once chores are completed.
- Children can learn at a very young age
that they are able to choose to have the
right attitude. We all feel “yucky” at times,
but we don’t need to behave in “yucky”
ways. We all possess the ability to simply
decide to have a good outlook, no matter
what the circumstances.
- Reinforce the “golden rule” of treating
others how you would want to be treated.
Children can be reminded to treat others
with respect, kindness, helpfulness, and
- Regarding the Internet: Children should
never give out any personal information,
including names of friends. Instruct them
never to arrange to meet someone that
they met online. Something that seems
innocent to them may be a real danger.
- Keep anger under wraps. When your
child sees you handle situations with calm
and self control, you’re teaching your
child to do the same. (This even applies
when we get stuck in a traffic jam and are
in a terrific hurry!)
- Set up your own sessions to practice
good manners. You could have a tea
party, or play a game with your child.
Point out that using good behavior makes
the event more enjoyable for everyone.
Teaching your child to clean up after
themselves can translate later in life to
effectively taking care of life’s more